Relationship problems, my girlfriend will split up with me as her father dislikes me, advice needed!?

I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 3 years, i never really spoke to her father, as i always felt too scared to approach him, because i was too worried he would have a go at me for something, he used to upset my girlfriend when he got angry with her, and this made me dislike him... we moved out and got a place together so that we can be together more, as we lived 40 miles from each other, i was always to scared to go round to his house with her because i never felt welcome, this caused us to argue till we eventually split up, we then got back together after a week and i sent him and his wife some flowers to apologise for nasty things i had told my girlfriend in anger about him, he then came over to help us out with some decorating and we were chatting quite well.. then at christmas he called my girlfriend and said that he heard i had been touching myself in front of one of his daughters (his daughter told him this), my girlfriend told him it wasn't true and i then lost the confidence to go round his house for xmas dinner. since then ive never been invited round again and hes never really spoken to me, i had to move back home to sort out my finances which ive done now, but my girlfriend is reluctant to take me back because her father has told her that he hates me and that she should find someone he likes, id like to try to make amends, but i don't think he would be interested. i have sent him an email which my gf thinks he'll delete, explaining all of the above but in more details, haven't heard back, but if he stands by what he told my gf then i will lose her and i don't want to. Any advice please? any fathers tell me what they'd do?Relationship problems, my girlfriend will split up with me as her father dislikes me, advice needed!?
alright mate. sorry to here bout the situation.





right i was in exactly the same situation. was will a girl for 2 years and she lived in the same city as me, she moved to live with her dad an hour and a halfs drive away. 9 months went by no problems, i used to get on with her dad and step mum. then they decided i wasnt aloud to sleep with her after bieng aloud for a year. this caused friction and di didnt feel welcome anymore. me and my girfriend began to argure cus we couldnt see each other. after a while she took her parents side and i knew there was no chance of it working.





its horrible having to break up because of someone elses views.





my advice is see whos side your girfriend takes. yours or her dads. the only way it will work is if she takes your side and tells her dad that she wants to be with you. Relationship problems, my girlfriend will split up with me as her father dislikes me, advice needed!?
Well, my dear friend.


Hold her hand, look her in the eyes, and tell her these exact words.


';Farewell, my dear. Thank you for everything';





you've definitely got something better waiting for you.


no one's got the right to control you, not even YOUR family.


let alone hers.





good luck.
Ben is right, give him a good kick right in the chuckies.


Maybe smack him around a bit as he rolls helplessly on the floor - just to show how serious you are.



if she does ...well she wasn't the one for u.
Well clearly you need to be a man about this...!! because he sounds like a complete ****, So treat him like one..! go round unexpected knock on the door and when he answers kick him as hard as you can between the legs, and if your girlfriend truely loves you she will stay with you...!! and the father I doubt will even bother you again, and as you have already said, flowers and emails have not worked. Try Actions :-)





Regards


Ben
It makes me wonder why you really never wanted to make a relationship with the family in 3 years. It's kind of silly to be scared the father for no reason and not get to know him because of what might happen. If you had taken the time to get to know him, this situation probably would have never come up. That is unless you really were touching yourself in front of her sister.
Drop her and be thankful





If she knows her dad and what he is like and she is still so shallow a person as to allow him to control her - then they deserve each other.





Sorry - that is not what you want to hear but things will never change - he has control and she will not move from that - for some reason.





If what her dad said was true - how come you haven't been arrested for indecent exposure or worse.





He controls the family and she is allowing him to do so